After speaking to a few of my friends that have lost before, they have confirmed that their husbands seem to get over it in a day or so, where we tend to take much longer. It took me 6 months to fully grieve the loss of our baby. Never getting to meet them, hold them, nurse them, name them. And it's not just the baby that you grieve for, it's the hope and dreams for them and your family as well. It was a long process.
But allowing yourself to fall in love after miscarriage is so important, as hard as it is to do. You just have to put fear behind you and allow yourself to love. It's the first stages of bonding, to get you through labour and the crazy shift in hormones that occur afterwards. A friend of mine, one of the first people I told, once said to me, if she didn't miscarry her first, then she wouldn't have her twin girls now. Such wise words. If I didn't lose then I wouldn't have gone through this amazing journey that has changed me and my perspective, from one that hated pregnancy to one that is fully embracing it and loving it to the fullest! One that is so totally in love with this baby, a baby I wouldn't have if it weren't for a miscarriage.
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