Tuesday 7 May 2013

CONTROVERSY AT THE DOCTORS

When I went to the doctor to confirm my pregnancy, she offered me the usual tests, one of them being for down syndrome. I refused. My reason being that even if there was something 'wrong' with my baby, I would choose to continue with the pregnancy rather than abort. She looked mortified. MORTIFIED!  So she asked me if I had the test with my 1st, and I said no, for the same reasons. I have a few more reasons, such as those tests not being accurate, with many women choosing to abort and then finding out their baby was perfectly healthy (a friend worked in counselling in a maternity hospital and she had to counsel these women going through this, I didn't realised they told you your baby was healthy but apparently they do!) And if you chose to keep, and the baby turns out healthy but you were stressing all this time for nothing. I don't think any of those options are healthy. There is also my faith beliefs (but won't go too deep there unless I am asked). I am also very low risk and have no factors that should cause concern, such as me being young (mid 20s) and having had a child born without down syndrome. After the conversation, she was half turned to me and muttered under her breath, well as long as you know what you are getting yourself into....just after she had said, wow you just came in here to get a referral for secondary infertility.

Hmmm I don't think that was her place, but didn't have the energy to argue. She wasn't even going to let me have an ultrasound, because I had no reason. Um I want to see my baby, reason enough!

6 comments:

  1. What a strange lady! People are so judgemental when it comes to pregnancy! Good on you for not arguing, those people aren't worth your time!

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    1. They sure are! I mean I am the one that has to live with the 'consequences' and will love my baby no matter what!

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  2. Get another doctor, one without the bedside manner of negativity.
    I was told I wont walk again, but I am.

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    1. Yes, I think I will! Wow that is truly AMAZING! Good on you for persevering!

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  3. Goodness, glad you stuck up for yourself! Hopefully it went well besides that!

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    1. Thanks, It's hard when the 'normal' is to abort when there is a problem. I have heard too many stories of this and it breaks my heart. The worst thing is a friend of mine used to work in a maternity ward as a counselor and she would tell me story and story of mothers who were encouraged to abort as there was something 'wrong' and the baby was totally healthy! Everything else has gone well, Thank-you!

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